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Something I've been wondering; would you (mods/followers) say that the hate feminine-of-center AFAB trans and nonbinary people get is because of misogyny, transmisogyny, or something else altogether?
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crushingthebinary:

I think it’s a mix of a lot of things.

People get angry at non-dysphoric femme-presenting AFAB demigirls for several reasons including the very real possibility that there ARE people doing it for attention and a whole lot of problematic stuff. A lot of people who don’t feel like taking the time to look into it more than that form their opinions of ALL AFAB trans people, especially nonbinary ones, based on this. 

For people who don’t know anything about gender, transness and gender roles are super intwined. It freaks them out when a trans person is comfortable enough in their gender/gender identity to defy the roles assigned to people of that gender because holy shit, that’s TWO WHOLE THINGS that they struggle to understand. 

Misogyny definitely plays a significant role in this as well. The whole ~nonbinary fad~ or whatever people are calling it is often seen as a “teenage girl thing”, and anything associated with teenage girls mustn’t be taken seriously right??? Right??????? 

Obviously that’s bullshit, but there are actually people who see it that way.

There’s also a gross chunk of misogynistic views lobbed in there with the otherization of femininity in general… Most people see soft masculinity as the default for androgyny, and breaking away from that is pretty difficult. People have a hard enough time coping with the fact that there are more than two genders, so imagine how difficult  it must be for them to rewrite their ideas of androgyny AS WELL AS the relationship between gender and gender expression/presentation. Wow. 

People seem to have this bizarre idea that nonbinary people are “supposed to look like” something particular. Usually, that something is the soft masculine androgyny bit, so when someone either presents in a more stereotypically gendered way or DARES to challenge society’s view of androgyny, the masses get confused.

So basically it’s a problem of ignorance. 

fohk:

“If the sky were to suddenly open up, there would be no law, there would be no rule. There would only be you and your memories”
Donnie Darko (2001)Richard Kelly

fohk:

If the sky were to suddenly open up, there would be no law, there would be no rule. There would only be you and your memories”

Donnie Darko (2001)
Richard Kelly

even guys who do the sport can catch the gay. u throw the gay, u catch the gay. sport.

MY BOYFRIEND JUST TOLD ME I LOOK CUTE DRESSED IN MASCULINE CLOTHES IM HYPERVENTILATING

colesprouseofficial:

sorry! your password must contain at least seventeen roman numerals and the entire script of shrek the third

"There are certain phrases that I know I will get shit for, but that feels very right for me. I sing, for example, ‘he hit me and it felt like a kiss,’ a feeling I love. You know when you think it’s love, but it’s so passionate that it becomes aggressive. It is an attractive quality to me. In a world where everyone is bored, I like people with emotion."
Lana Del Rey on Ultraviolence (via drearydoll) ←

romankyaryday:

i went to a new school when i started second grade and i still remember what my parents said to me as they dropped me off on my first day at the new school: “dont do your yoshi impression, it’s weird and you’ll make no friends.”